People,

in selecting a mate for your life partner, what characteristic would you choose over the next one. Would you pick looks over intelligence, or intelligence over looks?

Which is more important to you?

intelligence over looks?

Which is more important to you?


my Queen Ayana
how are you sweety
i am really greatfull to see u around
and waitin for ur next call .. am i gonna wait for so long
loool :lool:

back to your Q
for me i think inteligence is more important
and there is one more thing more improtant then inteligence
and looks .. behaver i dont know if its right or wrong
my english is really Bad my Queen

i pick looks. i mean brains are important but if i had to choose its looks without a doubt.

Anas,

I did call you; but I didn't get you. I will try again this morning on the 12 of February.


Ahmed,

I thank you for your honest answer. Sometimes people will say brains are more important to them; but they don't really mean it. I think we are more attracted to each other by looks first and everything else comes after. It's the looks which first appeals to your mind; then when you get to know someone, their looks play a part.

You can see someone who looks ugly to you and you choose not to get to know that individual base on their looks; BUT IN REALITY THAT UGLY LOOKING PERSON CAN BE VERY NICE. Now on the other hand, you can see a person who looks good to you and in reality that individual could be no good.

Thanks Anas and Ahmed for your input. Anas, please keep your phone near you.

Have a nice day to both of you.

Queen.

I think it's important to choose a combination of both...I'd go that way. One more thing I'd like to add: NEVER understimate the powers of Looks! Guess what? Society judges an individual based on LOOKS alone! People do the same! Call me shallow, but that's how the world is working ever since it has been created. It is implemented in our genes.

If you aren't that good looking, then your only chance to get along/be accepted (in a society where good looks' levels are high), is that you convey your special personality as soon as possible. Even after that, your friends would have a hard time trying to explain to others why they chose you as a friend, and how great you are, because others might judge you based only on looks alone.....I also found out that if you got loads of cash, some people will view you as good looking in their minds, when you are not!

Mystery I agree totally.

my Queen Ayana
how are you sweety
i am really greatfull to see u around
and waitin for ur next call .. am i gonna wait for so long
loool :lool:

back to your Q
for me i think inteligence is more important
and there is one more thing more improtant then inteligence
and looks .. behaver i dont know if its right or wrong
my english is really Bad my Queen


Ya Zol Allaha
i tried to believe u but i can't. :lool:
the inteligence one will make your life soo bad, as we know that the women are talkative, so, if she is smart your brain will be damaged.

if u gonna consider my advise and 2 b happy choose the looks first
:wink: .

I understand what you're saying Anas; however, I do feel that most people will always pick brains over looks because we are first attracted by sight. Oncw we see an individual, we first decide if we like what we are looking at; then we decide if we wish to meet that individual base on how the person looks. When you first saw my picture, you didn't write back and tell me I had a beautiful brain; you said I look beautiful. All the time we wrote back and forth, you never told me I was intelligent until after you saw my pictures and you got to know me better. So I think although we may wish to like some one based on their intelligence, deep down, looks do come first.

On the other hand, I know we have people who are not the greatest looking people in the world but they have a beautiful inside which makes them good looking after we know them; but not before. smile.

Enough said from me.

Anas I'm calling you today so keep your phone near by.

Your Queen,

Ayana.

If I was blind then, I will go for the brain over the beauty, but since God has given me vision and has created some beautifull sisters and He has put the appreciations of their beauty in my heart then I must be a faithfull servant!:love:. A men whose psych is not content with his womens beauty is likely to fall prey to those beautifull pochers out there:D

At the end of the day getting an ugly wife or husband does not end with that marriege, it can replicate into your childrens and instead of having one ugly person in the house you now have several....:D .Like wise you do not need a totall cheese head in the house otherwise your house will be known as a house of fools!..... Face by such a dilema it seems ugliness is easily inherited than lack of brain power! so I will risk for looks;)

People,

in selecting a mate for your life partner, what characteristic would you choose over the next one. Would you pick looks over intelligence, or intelligence over looks?

Which is more important to you?


100% Brain

+ soul and ethics what what realy count

we will use to the looks after awhile and the Stupidity will remain for life time

100% Brain


+ soul and ethics what what realy count


we will use to the looks after awhile and the Stupidity will remain for life time



Buddy there is what is called dementia, brain remains forever is an ancient quotes when people died at the age of fifty, but if you live long enough even Einstein will be demented...every thing human comes to an end therefore enjoy beauty while it lasts...just like roses that brighten your day today but fades away tomorrow! Is human life in itself not like that? You are here today and bank you are gone tomorrow!

Buddy there is what is called dementia, brain remains forever is an ancient quotes when people died at the age of fifty, but if you live long enough even Einstein will be demented...every thing human comes to an end therefore enjoy beauty while it lasts...just like roses that brighten your day today but fades away tomorrow! Is human life in itself not like that? You are here today and bank you are gone tomorrow!


i wnat some one to share my life with
to became my soul mate
to have the same interst
to think with
to dream together
if i want beauty only
i will buy a cat
we will become old togethher
and lose our brain together

that what all life about
I can not express my self very good in english

i wnat some one to share my life with

to became my soul mate
to have the same interst
to think with
to dream together
if i want beauty only
i will buy a cat
we will become old togethher
and lose our brain together

that what all life about

I can not express my self very good in english



The post gave two choices beauty or looks. The rest of the package was not touched or the point of the post as I understood it.... Those with lesser brain power can have the rest of the package that interests you like sharing interests etc so I deffinately want a beautifull, hot loving, heavenly caring family minded queen in the house!

The post gave two choices beauty or looks. The rest of the package was not touched or the point of the post as I understood it.... Those with lesser brain power can have the rest of the package that interests you like sharing interests etc so I deffinately want a beautifull, hot loving, heavenly caring family minded queen in the house!

all the package of thinking and sharing and dream come together with brain

that my understanding

all the package of thinking and sharing and dream come together with brain




that my understanding




was the choises between a retard and a nerd? I doubt that was the essence of the post. I have yet to see a beautifull retard but plenty of less brain power! I deffinately do not want a retard.
IQ less than 70 quolifys for Mental retard
IQ 80 and above is a normal fuctioning human, brainy peoples IQ >130 etc
what Iam saying is less than 130 and above 80 is just perfect for me as long as she is a beauty queen with the rest of the packages you talked about.

Hi Ayana,

For ladies looking for a male soul-mate, I think brain is more important, as for men looking for female soul-male, look should be more important than brain. This is the law of Nature.

It is not without good reasons Mother Nature endowed the male birds with amazing voice and beautiful tails. The same can be said of the beautiful color of the male fish as opposed to the female fish.

Caesar

Ya Zol Allaha
i tried to believe u but i can't. :lool:
if u gonna consider my advise and 2 b happy choose the looks first
:wink: .

spiderMan belive me
STIUPED women are useless
she can`t give u any thing .,, no matter if she looks better
still .. STIUPED:lool:

but smart woman can give u only by msgs and phon calls
reason to live
;)


Queen Ayana
i am waiting for you and remember
to call the new number thats end by 96610
:)

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/f/f7/IQ_curve.svg/350px-IQ_curve.svg.png (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:IQ_curve.svg)

Any thing in the means is well and good but must be beautifull to the eye:lv:

Determinants of female physical attractiveness
Main article: Sexual attraction (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_attraction)
The determinants of female physical attractiveness include those aspects that display health and fitness for reproduction (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reproduction) and sustenance. These include correlates of fertility (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility) such as waist-hip ratio (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist-hip_ratio)[5] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Singh), mid upper arm circumference, body mass proportion[6] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Toove) and facial symmetry[7] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Berscheid) [8] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Fink).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=9)] Height

Males exhibit a preference for females of shorter physical stature than themselves, and studies indicate that women of below average height have greater reproductive success. [9] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-BBC) An advantage to smaller size may be that smaller size may be seen as more youthful, and males find pedomorphic (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pedomorphic) characteristics in females attractive [10] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-0). Yet another possible explanation is that shorter females reach sexual maturity earlier than their taller counterparts[9] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-BBC).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=10)] Waist-hip ratio

Scientists have discovered that the waist-hip ratio (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist-hip_ratio) (WHR) is a significant factor in judging female attractiveness. Women with a 0.7 WHR (waist (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist) circumference that is 70% of the hip (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hip) circumference) are invariably rated as more attractive by men, regardless of their culture.[5] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Singh) The ratio would supposedly signal female fertility for evolutionary choices. Such diverse beauty icons as Marilyn Monroe (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marilyn_Monroe), Twiggy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twiggy), Sophia Loren (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophia_Loren), Kate Moss (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kate_Moss), and the Venus de Milo (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venus_de_Milo) all have ratios around 0.7.

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=11)] Proportion of body mass to body structure

The Body Mass Index (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_Mass_Index) (BMI) is another important universal determinant to the perception of beauty.[6] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Toove) The BMI refers to the proportion of the body mass to the body structure. However, the optimal body proportion is interpreted differently in various cultures. The Western ideal considers a slim and slender body mass as optimal while many historic cultures consider an embonpoint (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Embonpoint&action=edit) or plump body-mass as appealing. In either case, the underlying rule applied in determining beauty is the BMI, and hence displays how cultural differences of beauty operate on universal principles of human evolution.[11] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Cunningham) It has been theorized that the phenotype of one's own mother during the early years of childhood becomes the basis for the perception of optimal body mass index (BMI)[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)].
The slim ideal does not consider an emaciated body as attractive, just as the full-rounded ideal does not celebrate the over-weight or the obese. The cultural leanings are therefore just social emphasis on specific phenotypes (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phenotype) within a parameter of optimal BMI.[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)]
The attraction for a proportionate body also influences an appeal for erect posture (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_positions). [12] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Furnham)

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=12)] Prototypicality as beauty

Besides biology and culture, there are other factors determining physical attractiveness. The more familiar a face seems, the more highly it is judged, an example of the mere exposure effect (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere_exposure_effect). It is seen that when many faces are combined into a composite image (through computer morphing), people find the resultant image as familiar and attractive, and even more beautiful than the faces that went into it. One interpretation is that this shows an inherent human preference for prototypicality. That is, the resultant face emerges with the salient features shared by most faces, and hence becomes the prototype (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prototype). The prototypical face and features is therefore perceived as symmetrical and familiar. This reveals an "underlying preference for the familiar and safe over the unfamiliar and potentially dangerous"[7] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Berscheid). However, critics of this interpretation point out that compositing computer images also has the effect of removing skin blemishes such as scars, and generally softens sharp facial features.
Classical conceptions of beauty are essentially a celebration of this prototypicality (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prototype). This shows the importance of prototypicality in the judgment of beauty, and also explains the emergence of similarity of the perception of attractiveness within a community or society, which shares a gene pool (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gene_pool).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=13)] Skin color

Another feature is skin color on the spectrum of dark to light. As with most determinants of attractiveness, there are cultural differences: lighter tones are preferred by some cultures, while in others, tanned or darker skin is preferred.
In the 20th and 21st century Western world, tanned skin has been considered highly attractive for both men and women. Here, the tan has come to carry with it connotations of having an active lifestyle, thus better (implied) physical health[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)].
In earlier Western cultures, lighter skin was preferred, as it was considered a marker of a more "cultured" individual or "gentlewoman" who did not have to engage in outdoor labor.
In eastern parts of Asia, including Southeast Asia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Southeast_Asia), this preference for lighter skin remains prevalent [2] (http://english.people.com.cn/200503/09/eng20050309_176167.html) (however, certain sub-cultures, such as the ganguro (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganguro) of Japan (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan), indicate preference for a darker-skinned ideal as a statement against mainstream Japanese standards of beauty). In East Asia in particular, fair skin is associated with youth, since skin darkens with exposure to the sun and aging. This conflation of youth and beauty is not exclusive to East Asia, and can be linked to the phenomenon of neoteny (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neoteny). Thus, it is hardly surprising that sales of skin whitening cosmetic products are popular in East Asia. This liking for fair skin however is not a recent development, and in China, for example, can be traced back to ancient drawings depicting women and goddesses with fair skin tones. In those periods, Chinese brides were often described and praised to suitors as being fair-skinned, a trait usually only associated with girls from royalty or nobility who could afford to stay indoors most of the time.



Oh ya mama mia:jump: :jump:

People,

in selecting a mate for your life partner, what characteristic would you choose over the next one. Would you pick looks over intelligence, or intelligence over looks?

Which is more important to you?

Both and must be very clever and pretty
or better stay single
:D

Determinants of female physical attractiveness
Main article: Sexual attraction (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_attraction)
The determinants of female physical attractiveness include those aspects that display health and fitness for reproduction (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reproduction) and sustenance. These include correlates of fertility (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility) such as waist-hip ratio (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist-hip_ratio)[5] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Singh), mid upper arm circumference, body mass proportion[6] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Toove) and facial symmetry[7] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Berscheid) [8] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Fink).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=9)] Height

Males exhibit a preference for females of shorter physical stature than themselves, and studies indicate that women of below average height have greater reproductive success. [9] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-BBC) An advantage to smaller size may be that smaller size may be seen as more youthful, and males find pedomorphic (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pedomorphic) characteristics in females attractive [10] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-0). Yet another possible explanation is that shorter females reach sexual maturity earlier than their taller counterparts[9] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-BBC).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=10)] Waist-hip ratio

Scientists have discovered that the waist-hip ratio (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist-hip_ratio) (WHR) is a significant factor in judging female attractiveness. Women with a 0.7 WHR (waist (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist) circumference that is 70% of the hip (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hip) circumference) are invariably rated as more attractive by men, regardless of their culture.[5] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Singh) The ratio would supposedly signal female fertility for evolutionary choices. Such diverse beauty icons as Marilyn Monroe (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marilyn_Monroe), Twiggy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twiggy), Sophia Loren (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophia_Loren), Kate Moss (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kate_Moss), and the Venus de Milo (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venus_de_Milo) all have ratios around 0.7.

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=11)] Proportion of body mass to body structure

The Body Mass Index (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_Mass_Index) (BMI) is another important universal determinant to the perception of beauty.[6] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Toove) The BMI refers to the proportion of the body mass to the body structure. However, the optimal body proportion is interpreted differently in various cultures. The Western ideal considers a slim and slender body mass as optimal while many historic cultures consider an embonpoint (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Embonpoint&action=edit) or plump body-mass as appealing. In either case, the underlying rule applied in determining beauty is the BMI, and hence displays how cultural differences of beauty operate on universal principles of human evolution.[11] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Cunningham) It has been theorized that the phenotype of one's own mother during the early years of childhood becomes the basis for the perception of optimal body mass index (BMI)[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)].
The slim ideal does not consider an emaciated body as attractive, just as the full-rounded ideal does not celebrate the over-weight or the obese. The cultural leanings are therefore just social emphasis on specific phenotypes (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phenotype) within a parameter of optimal BMI.[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)]
The attraction for a proportionate body also influences an appeal for erect posture (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_positions). [12] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Furnham)

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=12)] Prototypicality as beauty

Besides biology and culture, there are other factors determining physical attractiveness. The more familiar a face seems, the more highly it is judged, an example of the mere exposure effect (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere_exposure_effect). It is seen that when many faces are combined into a composite image (through computer morphing), people find the resultant image as familiar and attractive, and even more beautiful than the faces that went into it. One interpretation is that this shows an inherent human preference for prototypicality. That is, the resultant face emerges with the salient features shared by most faces, and hence becomes the prototype (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prototype). The prototypical face and features is therefore perceived as symmetrical and familiar. This reveals an "underlying preference for the familiar and safe over the unfamiliar and potentially dangerous"[7] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#_note-Berscheid). However, critics of this interpretation point out that compositing computer images also has the effect of removing skin blemishes such as scars, and generally softens sharp facial features.
Classical conceptions of beauty are essentially a celebration of this prototypicality (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prototype). This shows the importance of prototypicality in the judgment of beauty, and also explains the emergence of similarity of the perception of attractiveness within a community or society, which shares a gene pool (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gene_pool).

[edit (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Physical_attractiveness&action=edit&section=13)] Skin color

Another feature is skin color on the spectrum of dark to light. As with most determinants of attractiveness, there are cultural differences: lighter tones are preferred by some cultures, while in others, tanned or darker skin is preferred.
In the 20th and 21st century Western world, tanned skin has been considered highly attractive for both men and women. Here, the tan has come to carry with it connotations of having an active lifestyle, thus better (implied) physical health[citation needed (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Citing_sources)].
In earlier Western cultures, lighter skin was preferred, as it was considered a marker of a more "cultured" individual or "gentlewoman" who did not have to engage in outdoor labor.
In eastern parts of Asia, including Southeast Asia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Southeast_Asia), this preference for lighter skin remains prevalent [2] (http://english.people.com.cn/200503/09/eng20050309_176167.html) (however, certain sub-cultures, such as the ganguro (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ganguro) of Japan (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan), indicate preference for a darker-skinned ideal as a statement against mainstream Japanese standards of beauty). In East Asia in particular, fair skin is associated with youth, since skin darkens with exposure to the sun and aging. This conflation of youth and beauty is not exclusive to East Asia, and can be linked to the phenomenon of neoteny (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neoteny). Thus, it is hardly surprising that sales of skin whitening cosmetic products are popular in East Asia. This liking for fair skin however is not a recent development, and in China, for example, can be traced back to ancient drawings depicting women and goddesses with fair skin tones. In those periods, Chinese brides were often described and praised to suitors as being fair-skinned, a trait usually only associated with girls from royalty or nobility who could afford to stay indoors most of the time.



Oh ya mama mia:jump: :jump:



Couldn't have said it better... This is truth coming from heaven...several may disagree, but accept it....

Come on people, we all know that most people will go for looks first because this is most natural. We admirer pretty and beautiful people from their outer looks, then when we get to know them more, we develop a likeness for them. Once we disl;ike what we see, we may not always try to get to know the individual vs, liking what we see at first and wanting to get to know each other as soon as possible. Let's be real here. One attribute may be wiser to choose than the other; however, we all know as human beings, we enjoy eating and admiring with our eyes.

Queen.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

on a second thought ya ayana....i came across a few situations that shaped my opinion since i replied.....and i thought about it more deeply....8)

i think its all relevant and differs from chick to chick......i mean if a chick is butt ugly but got good brains and one is sexy as hell but dump then i def pick the sexy one.....but there is situations where the chick with brains is not 2 ugly...as in she looks aiight...plus sass and feminism plays a huge role.....an average looking girl who acts sasy n feminine is a way better pick than one who is fine as hell but acts like a man...

Brain for sure. a beauty that is glowing inside will enrich one's life. but those trophy girls make people loose their sanity. Give me a girl with brain and iam happy

Brain for sure. a beauty that is glowing inside will enrich one's life. but those trophy girls make people loose their sanity. Give me a girl with brain and iam happy


We all know that the average person go for looks first and that's just our nature. We as human beings, we like beautiful things and we approach people and things by the way they look. A handsome man, a beautiful woman, a great looking car, a beautiful baby, a pretty rose, a plate of food that looks delicious etc. We all go by looks and decide how we feel later; once we find out that that delicious plate of food taste bad, we then dislike it or that hansome man is a player or that beautiful woman is a prostitute etc. We later change our minds. So we can all quit with the pretense about brains first. I know men who always say, looks didn't matter and once they plan to go on a blind date, the first question they want to know is, what does the girl look like? That's evidence right there that men really don't want an ugly woman.

I have single friends who go on matrimonial web sites to find their mates and all the men always ask for a photo of the individul women they are writing to. Now I know they want to see a photo of whom they are communicating with, but also to see what the women look like too. So some of you should stop fooling yourselves.

Queen.

Brain definitely Queen, good to see .

Brain definitely Queen, good to see u .

sooooooooooooooooooooooooryyyyyyyyyyyy!

Ayana is wrong for you to put every man in the same pool. I don't think you know all men and that make you claim a bit funny. Some like external beauty some like internal beauty and that is a fact. I am not going to claim all men are looking for just good looking girls , that would be wrong and very wrong. I hope you go on date and think about what you can find in common with your date not just their external characteristics.

Ayana is wrong for you to put every man in the same pool. I don't think you know all men and that make you claim a bit funny. Some like external beauty some like internal beauty and that is a fact. I am not going to claim all men are looking for just good looking girls , that would be wrong and very wrong. I hope you go on date and think about what you can find in common with your date not just their external characteristics.



You are right to say, I don't know all men,however, I can not generalize like that. I can however speak base on my own experiences and that's what I was doing. If you noticed I gave examples of what I experienced. I was trying to say, no matter what people say about brains before looks, I don't believe them because their attitudes speaks louder than their words. Some may say they choose brains over looks, but their actions says something else. I can see after individuals have met and got to know each other, they decide to choose brains over looks; however, I can not see you seeing a stranger for the first time and you decide automatically that you like her brains over her looks when you know nothing about the person that's all I'm saying.

Queen.

I remember someone telling me that they did not choose a woman for marriage because she was too fat. This is the same man who told me, looks didn't matter to him. In this case why didn't he choose to marry the lady since she was a smart woman? Because he didn't like the way she looked even though she was smart. So he was just lying to me and himself when he said looks didn't matter.


Queen.

Looks matter. In fact it is probably the greatest determinant. Anyone who states to the contrary is trying NOT to sound superficial.

I have Never heard anyone equivocating intelligence alone with *attractiveness*.

^With that being said, intelligence contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful.

Beauty is all but transient, intelligence is virtually everlasting, and far better company too.

Looks matter. In fact it is probably the greatest determinant. Anyone who states to the contrary is trying NOT to sound superficial.

I have Never heard anyone equivocating intelligence alone with *attractiveness*.

^With that being said, intelligence contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful.

Beauty is all but transient, intelligence is virtually everlasting, and far better company too.

I agree with you 100%.
Queen.

Picking looks over intelligence is like judging a book by its cover. Looks are temporary and vanishes over time. I can date and marry a beautiful girl but in the long run does she have the brain so both of us can function properly..

Personally...I like both, I can't even lie about that. :D

I clearly understood your point Ayana. I am not saying look doesn't matter. What iam saying is some men/women will wait untill they know the person. There is nothing wrong with an intellegent beautiful woman. but if i have to choose, I will always choose brain for certain. Internal beauty grow and keep growing over time and that is why I prefered it. People going for looks is the reason why divorce rate is extremely high today. People can't stand each other after the beauty wore off.

Looks matter. In fact it is probably the greatest determinant. Anyone who states to the contrary is trying NOT to sound superficial.

I have Never heard anyone equivocating intelligence alone with *attractiveness*.

^With that being said, intelligence contributes to beauty. It fortifies a woman as her youth fades. A mode of conduct, a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude and integrity can do a great deal to make a woman beautiful.

Beauty is all but transient, intelligence is virtually everlasting, and far better company too.

I missed this post. Perfect analogy.

Looks is important only if the couple are not intending to raise kids; looks only save I and not us/we. I have seen a lot of people who sale themselves for looks to get what they want, but in the end, they are doomed to fail. I hope we understand that the question is about relationship and potential marriage not the marketing tools.